Archive for October, 2019

last_wordYou know the type: the person who just can’t walk away from an argument unless they’ve had the last word, proving once and for all that they’re right and you’re wrong. When you’re in a relationship with someone like that, it can make any dispute needlessly long, frustrating and unproductive.

“Partners who seek to win against their mate may end up ‘winning’ the battle and losing the war by destroying their relationship connection,” said Kurt Smith, a therapist in Roseville, California, who specializes in counseling men. “Conversations and arguments shouldn’t be a competition.”

I asked relationship experts to explain why some partners fall into this bad habit and how to deal if it’s hurting your relationship.


Save The Seeds For Planting

pumkin_cover1If you have a jack-o-lantern that’s fully intact (perhaps you drew on the face instead of carving), you can take advantage of the guts once Halloween is over. Scrape out the seeds, wash them, towel dry and then store them in a brown paper bag for a month. After a month, discard any seeds that show signs of rot or mold, then label your good seeds and store them in a dark, cool place until spring rolls around and you can plant them. Get in the spirit of fall with these pumpkin spice goodies.

Compost It

Toss that jack-o-lantern in your compost pile if you’re using a heap method to compost. For more delicate composting, be sure to cut the pumpkin into smaller pieces first. Highlight autumn’s freshest hues on white, orange or pale green pumpkins.

Make a Pumpkin Bird Feeder

DIY your own bird feeder by simply filling up your old jack-o-lantern with a layer of bird feed. Place it in the yard where you’ll get a good vantage point of the birds coming and going. You can also hang the pumpkin, carving out a large section of the back of the pumpkin to see the birds eating. Check out these 20 jack-o-lantern ideas that’ll make you wish you had a bigger porch.

Save Them to Make Pumpkin Snowmen

If snow is around the corner in your part of the country, why not save your pumpkins and reuse them as heads for your snowmen?

Try a Pumpkin Cannon

You’re not the only one wondering what to do with your leftover jack-o-lantern! See if there’s a local pumpkin cannon party in your neck of the woods and plan to show up and shoot your JOL through the sky! You could also build your own pumpkin catapult or trebuchet.

Have a Pumpkin Smashing Party

Another fun way to use your jack-o-lantern is to host a pumpkin smashing party. It’s a great excuse to get friends together and have a little outdoor fun in the fall. Ask your guests to bring their old pumpkins over and something to damage it with: slingshot, hammer, broomstick etc.

Make a Pumpkin Flower Planter

Hollow out a jack-o-lantern that wasn’t carved and transform it into a festive fall flower pot. You can also put a whole plant in the pumpkin, then place the pumpkin in the ground. The pumpkin will deteriorate in the ground, fertilizing the plant as it breaks down.

Make Pumpkin Potpourri

Fill your house with the smell of pumpkin pie by using your leftover pumpkin as indoor potpourri. If it’s not already carved, add some vents once you’ve hollowed it out, then burn a candle inside once you’ve rubbed spices in the lid.

Feed Wildlife

Do you live in an area with an active wildlife population? Make use of your old jack-o-lantern by bringing it into the woods or to the edge of your lawn, away from the road, and allow deer, raccoons, squirrels and other animals to eat it the pumpkin.

Make a Thanksgiving Tablescape

Pumpkins aren’t just for Halloween! Keep a pumpkin or two around and add them into your tablescape for Thanksgiving. Add candles, pine cones and leaves for a beautiful setting. To make sure the day goes smoothly, here are 12 must-haves for a successful Thanksgiving.


Most Americans are missing out on this tasty forgotten part of the chicken , chicken feet.


Even the briefest lull in a conversation can prompt some people to wonder: "Am I boring?"

most-interestingThe honest answer is that you’re probably perfectly fascinating, but you can always become more so. It’s a question of collecting new skills, knowledge, and experiences and learning how to share them with others.

Over on Quora, dozens of people have answered the question, "How do I become a more interesting person?" with creative insights based on their own experience. I sifted through their responses and pinpointed the most practical advice.

Read on for ways to leave every social gathering feeling confident that you captured people’s interest and won their admiration.


toxic_1These abandoned communities are seriously hazardous
Dangerously unfit for human habitation, a number of settlements around the world remain strictly off-limits, ranging from once-thriving cities contaminated with radiation to desolate villages riddled with asbestos, anthrax and explosives. Grab your hazmat suit and let’s take a tour of 10 of the world’s most toxic towns.